Looking back, you always had a tendency to get close to a girl at different points in your life. There was always a potential third party lurking.

It was all a matter of whether that girl had morals or not, and whether you had the financial means to splurge on her or not.

And this time, the stars aligned. She had no morals and you had the cash, hence the ending.

To think I thought so highly of you and taxed myself with carrying the financial weight of the wedding.

You had no school loans to pay, earned more than me, had a better start without $28k worth of debt yet you didn’t initiate to help me more and even caused a stir when I told you I was stressed out about the wedding finances. Like it was no big deal to you.

You say you don’t have enough. But truth is, you would have had enough. If I had enough to pay my school loans, you had MORE than enough.

Your spending was over the top. Your credit card bills were disturbingly high for the few commitments you had. Heck, you didn’t even need to worry about providing more for your parents and paying for family meals.

You were splashing on trips, drinks, clubbing, Grab rides and expensive meals with colleagues at a time when we needed to save. And when I got my guitar, you had the nerve to reprimand me, as if I was the one not lifting my weight for the wedding.

When I expressed concerns about your Bali trip, you even had the cheek to say “you will always find something to save for one lah!”, as if I was being paranoid for no reason. OF COURSE. We have a wedding to pay for, a house coming up and family planning to do.

WHAT IS THERE NOT TO SAVE FOR?

All I can say is, thank God for opening my eyes. It’s no wonder the relationship was so tough for me. I was practically alone. I never had a partner who had skin in the game. He always preferred enjoying things selfishly, with no care about the load I had to carry. And yet I thought I was the liability.

Here lies a man with no self-control, no empathy, no morals, no team spirit, no ability to see what is important in life and terrible financial management.

It’s pathetic how even with the tidy sum his parents gave us for the wedding, he can’t even fork out the remaining amount still owed to me. That’s HOW MUCH you’ve been carelessly spending, which certainly screams “maturity” all over.

That was a big bullet I dodged.